Monday, April 28, 2014
Understanding my role as a Biblical Wife. (Biblical woman series)
This is such an important study for me because being a Biblical wife to Leon is my passion. He's such an amazing husband and my best friend so I want to be all that I can be for him.
Honesty time! I did a no no folks. You see, I've put my Marriage on the back burner for a bit when I became a mama.. It's something that's so easy to do when you're a first time mom in fact I didn't even realize I did it until I read another blog post about it and realized "Oooops! Am I doing that??"
I guess because I got so overwhelmed with a little person and studying her, getting to know her likes and dislikes and making sure that her every need is met that I forgot to make sure Leon's needs were met too.
I've studied blogs and books on being the best mom I can be and leaving my studies on being the best wife I could be in the dust. I stopped trying to please Leon, I continued to get behind on washing his clothes, and keeping his meals fresh and even worse I even stopped praying for him.
That's a mistake that took a little hold on our marriage causing us to argue and it's a mistake that I refuse to make again..
Children are supposed to make a husband and wife grow closer and not farther apart. And I believe the reason why that happens sometimes to couples is because they forget that they were a husband or wife before becoming a parent. And obviously it's not the kids fault but the parents.
Sometimes "we" wives don't run and jump into the arms of our Mr when he comes home anymore because we're too busy keeping our kids happy.
Or we get behind on laundry because we'd rather be blogging on our little break then folding clothes.
Or sometimes we do "take out" way too often because we don't want to cook dinner..
Which is an understandable thing but not a good thing.
As a wife and a keeper of the house I'm called to be a good steward of what I have. I was so blessed to have the opportunity to spend my life with my husband early in life and I want to be a good steward of him and take good care of him.
I'm not saying I'm a horrible wife for getting behind on laundry, or not hugging on him when he gets home from work, or ordering take out when I don't feel like cooking dinner..
What I'm saying is that I shouldn't be making excuses for myself. I get behind on things around that house and I've used my busyness as an excuse. I get so overwhelmed with piles of laundry but it can be prevented. Doing a load of laundry every day and folding it and putting it away is a 30 minute job at the most. And planning a dinner menu the week before would make it so much easier to cook each night of the week and allowing myself to have a break from cooking every once in a while.
So ladies, This wife and Mama has come up with a plan to help me be a better Stuart in my role as a wife and house keeper. I'm coming up with a chart and I'm going to write a schedule of things I need to do each day to make my home a cleaner and happier one for my husband. I know at the moment Evie doesn't mind her clothes piling over but Leon does and I'm going to prevent that and make the piling go away.
And I've started praying for my husband these last few weeks every day again and I'm letting him know. Praying for my husband is the most important thing I can do. We can't grow stronger in our relationship together if our prayer life is on the back burner. I'll be posting more on that next week.