Thursday, May 29, 2014

Am I wearing a "Tell me how to take care of my baby" sign on my forehead??


Hey wonderful mamas! I hope you are having a fabulous week. I have been so exhausted lately with baby #2 that I even almost forgot about today's link up *gasp!  Thankfully Sarah has my back every week to take care of the big stuff...Other wise we'd be in trouble haha!

Speaking of baby #2 I just want to thank all of you for the sweet comments and precious emails about our sweet precious  new baby! Ya'll are gems.  And sooooo sorry I have been the worst blog friend ever!! I'll make it up to you with some cute sonogram pics in the near future!!

So we're talking about dealing with people sharing their opinions and how to lovingly handle it.

I often felt like  because I became a mama at the young age of twenty that people felt like they had a responsibility to teach  tell me how to raise my child. I often felt like  I was constantly wearing a sign on my four head saying "Tell me how to do things your way!"

It even got to the point where I was nervous to even be myself  as a mom in front of people because I was afraid that I would get a 20 minute session of "what not to do" because I didn't do what the other mom thought was best for my child. I used to get so extremely angry inside but mostly insecure.

People used to tell me I was holding Evie way to much, or that nursing is causing her to be way to attached to me.  I also got the "Well, when my baby was that age" sermon.  I am a firm believer that you do not give a mama your opinion unless it's asked.. Unless it's a really serious thing of course!! Otherwise if you think a mama is holding her baby too much. What's that to you? I think she has rights to hold her baby as long as she wants. :)

Learning to handle opinions in a loving manner was something Jesus really had to work with me on. I had to put my feeling and sensitivity aside and the best way for me to handle opinions lovingly is to assume that they are doing it out of love.. Maybe they really do love you and they just want to help you out or maybe they just think you're clueless and  you need their Mama smarts.. Either way seeing things from that perspective makes it easier to not come up with snappy comebacks or secretly picturing yourself punching that person in the face.

Now, when people give me their opinions I'll receive it the best I can. However if I think their advice wouldn't work on my child I say "Yea, I don't think that will work for us. Thanks though!" Some women may still get offended by that but hey, I'm not gonna do something pointless for my kid just to make someone else feel good.
  How do you deal with opinions? 

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May 8:          Taming the Temper Tantrums
May 15:        Weaning from Breastfeeding or From Formula to Cow’s Milk 
May 22:        Dealing with Mommy Guilt
May 29:        When People Share Their Opinions and How to Lovingly Handle it
June 5:         Traveling with your Toddler
June 12:       How to get your toddler to eat their veggies…or their food at all
June 19:       How to make time to blog in the busyness of motherhood
June 26:       Bedtime Battles (nap or bedtime)

Monday, May 26, 2014

Evelynne's 18 month update.


So my little big sister is now 18 months and I really feel like I'm wowed every month.  She is growing so fast and I never want to take it for granted.

At 18 Months Evelynne is:
really trying to form her words more now. It's so cute.  I really think the signing is helping her understand communication. She is now signing "More" "Please" and "all done"  She isn't really saying any new words but she is definitely showing signs that she will be talking soon.

Going to be a big sister!! We can't even express how excited we are. Evelynne got to go with mama and daddy to our first doctors appointment for her new little sibling and she loved playing with all the new toys.  Being there brought back so many memories of when I was pregnant with Evelynne. She is super protective over her mama. She didn't like the Midwife going near me so Leon took her out to play.

Becoming more and more like a little girl and less and less like a baby.  She is playing more and napping less.  She's actually sitting and laughing through movies now which is so adorable. I am guilty of letting Evelynne watch way more TV during this trimester than I do.. Her favorite thing right now to watch is Tangled and Barney. She is also dancing to music like "The wheels on the bus" And the "Ensy Weensy spider' She's so smart!
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    Nicknames: Evie, Piglet, Little love, Princess, munchkin, Espresso bean and Sweet Pea

Evelynne is loving// Playing Peek-a-boo// Chick-fil-a, When daddy comes home and chases her around the house// Being read too// Dancing to music//Her blankie// Her bear.


Evelynne doesn't like// Being told "no"// Timeouts// A majority of veggies which is why she gets veggie juice// nap time.

Eating:
At the moment she has been quite picky which is really hard for me right now because I'm just not up for trying to figure out what she will and won't eat.  I've been giving her lots of fruit and veggie pouches and smoothies along with yogurt and whatever we have been eating.

Daddy:
All I can say is Leon is the best daddy and hubby to us ever! He's been on vacation on and off this month so he's been really helping out with the house and with Evelynne and fulfilling all of my needs as a prego mama.


Mama:

Exhausted!! And so grateful for so many mommy friends who are happy to take Evie for a while so mama can get some much needed rest. I can't wait to feel 100% better.
                                                                         
                                                                                   What I'm looking forward to:
I'm so excited to do Big sister stuff with Evelynne. 

Some things that happened this month//

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I took Evie for the first time to Storyville Library and she loved it and so did I. There were so many things to do there. There was a mini library, a grocery store, train station and a forest. There was also a little place for babies six months and under for our new baby. I will def be back here.


 My Birthday this year was definitely a Birthday  I want to remember always (Minus the morning sickness part) Mainly because I feel like it was a Birthday I could celebrate with my little girl that she could enjoy too! We went to the Amish Store with my baby girl and mama.  I celebrated my 23rd with some Amish store soup. When I got home I was surprised to see Chocolate covered fruit in my fridge. Given to me by my one and only Leon. Along with a precious note that had our verse on it Jeremiah 29:11.



Mothers day was wonderful too! And not just because Leon surprised me with a Keurig (AAAH) But also a pizza and cold stone Ice cream.  Getting to experience Mothers day with my two loves and finding out about our new baby made my Birthday and Mothers day made!

Dearest Evelynne.
Every month I am blown away by how much you've grown. Not just physically but in every way. You  have become Mama's big helper. You even want to throw away your diaper which has helped me so much.  You are such a happy little girl and also a stubborn one. You know what you want and you're passionate about it and  I love that about you and I know God has big plans to use that.
Leon and I are blessed beyond comparison to have you as our sweet daughter and your new baby sibling will be blessed as well. I love you sweet girl!!

Sunday, May 25, 2014

Hey mamas!
Welcome back for another great week of Mommy Moments Link Ups! Thank you for linking up and for spreading the word last week! We had some awesome links last week as usual. 

Motherhood has its seriousness and frustration as well as its laughs. That's why we are here. Life is much easier when traveled with companions! So mamas, let's join together in the spirit of motherhood and share our moments together. We want to hear the happy, sad, tough, terrible, hilarious moments that make being a mother the best job in the world!

 The top viewed link this week belongs to Casey and Alexis from This Crazy Cass Life and her post Panick Attack 1: Being A Mom Is Hard! I'm not surprised that this was the top viewed post, after all! We all know that seasons of motherhood are especially hard and it's always nice to read about someone else's fears and struggles along the way. Thanks for sharing Alexis!

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Thursday, May 22, 2014

One year and beyond Link up [Dealing with mommy guilt]


I love being a Mama. I do! It's my calling in life. It's an anointing God has placed upon me and it's a job I know I'm good at. I know these things without a doubt and yet sometimes I still let the lies of the enemy bring me down by throwing guilt in my face or comparison.. Throwing at me the thieves of all joy..

It's something I have battled with ever since I became a Mama and it's suffocating at times by how awful I feel over the simplest things such as letting Evelynne cry herself to sleep because she won't let me cuddle her to sleep  or getting frustrated with her because I'm so tired and I feel exhausted still from that morning when she woke up at 1am wide awake..

I see all of these pinterest worthy Mama's and instagram and facebook Mama's  continually posting pictures of their daily activities with their children and it's so hard for me not to compare my motherhood to theirs.. With me not having a car our schedule sometimes just involves walks five times a day making it as exciting as possible and thank God for friends! 

And with all that being said I really feel like Jesus is always speaking to me through those times telling me

"Heather, Think of all the good things you did today as a Mama and stop drowning yourself in the things that didn't meet your expectations."

Let me see here..
My daughter woke up to hugs and kisses.
I fed her really good yogurt and toast for breakfast.
Provided for her clean clothes to wear that day.
did her hair.
took her on a walk.
Loved on her and gave her everything I had to give.

And Once I did that. Once I brought attention to all the things I did with my daughter I was proud of who I was as a mama.

Yes, I get frustrated with my beautiful daughter sometimes.. 9 times out of 10 it's mainly because I'm tired and exhausted and the other time is because I really think often times I'm raising a three year old in a one year old's body. She's so older minded and likes to try and out smart mama sometimes and boy if she doesn't get her way the whole neighborhood knows it. She's a leader and I love her for that and she is determined to get what she wants and I admire her about that.. I just need to continue to seek Jesus and His wisdom to show me and and continue to receive His wisdom in raising my darling strong willed precious girl.

Truth is Mamas.. We have a huge job on our hands.. It's hard, crazy at times and sometimes exhaustion over runs it all. But there is seriously nothing more rewarding.

I am a firm believer that raising a child  is the most important job here on earth.. It's a ministry all in itself. It's where 24/7 you are always giving, always on call and you constantly have your   guard up  to protecting your precious child.. And I'm not saying it's the most important job to be prideful and I'm not saying it's the hardest job either.. But what we're doing while raising our children is we're raising the future. We're raising an opportunity to make a difference. When we make a difference in the lives of our children or other peoples children and when we give them unconditional love, mercy and compassion and show them that Jesus difference in a Mama they will take that and share it with the world.

And this is why the enemy tries so hard to take your mind off of the importance of Motherhood and plants thoughts of guilt and comparison. Because he wants your child to experience guilt and comparison as well. Mamas even at a young age your children are still watching you. Even in the womb they feel you and get vibes on how your feeling.

Satan is not only on a mission to steal your joy but also the joy of your husband and children.. Because he knows what your children carry. The very hope that is in Jesus Christ.  The hope that saves, heals, brings life and condemns darkness. And all we need is just one with that hope to bring condemnation to hopelessness.

I am learning this every day. In fact Jesus is showing me this in a new light as I'm writing it down. And I want to encourage you today that you are not alone and it's okay to feel frustrated, exhausted and even mad at times. In fact I sometimes believe that Jesus gave us this verse specifically for mama's at times. I deeply encourage you sisters to take this verse seriously and run with it. Jesus knows weariness better then anyone! And He gets you, He's got you and He wants to give you rest. And He'll do that. You just gotta go to Him.
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Mama's will you let me encourage to today?

If you are experiencing guilt for something such as getting frustrated with your kids, maybe you punished them or yelled at them out of anger or  made them nap because you couldn't take anymore.

Maybe you feel bad for letting them cry themselves to sleep because sometimes you just have to do that.

Maybe you feel bad because you don't feel like you do enough things with you child.

Or maybe you're a new Mama and you're just so tired and you don't know what your baby wants. Or breastfeeding is  difficult and you feel guilty for switching to formula. You know there is nothing wrong with that and it doesn't mean you love your baby any less.. Breast feeding is not for everyone and it seriously has nothing to do with love. It's just a way of supplying food for your baby.

No matter what you're going through as a mama leave it at the feet of Jesus, Know who you are as a Mama and know that you are a good one who is anointed and gifted to raise little warriors.

And remember that God is not  calling perfect moms!  Because there aren't any. Not even the ones on face book, blogger and instagram.. And that's okay. We all need Jesus and I'll choose His perfection to cover me in my weakness. Because that's where He is strong and He wants to be your strength as well..

He knows you can't do this mom thing without Him because He knows you and your child better then you do and He wants to help you out. So when your uncertain about something when it comes to your parenting, instead of all of a sudden feeling guilty about it or feeling like a horrible parent talk to Jesus about it. Ask Him His thoughts or if He has any ideas of a better way to do it.. I promise if you go to Him He'll guide you through this journey of Motherhood.

Matthew 28:20

Always remember  Jesus is with you always, and instead of dwelling on the thought that you are a bad Mama because of the fewish things you have done that may not have even been a wrong decision  but just a decision. Remember that you are not a bad mom.. But you are a pretty darn good one and Jesus makes you an even better one. :)
Psalm 105:4
And always remember this!


Romans 8:1- the Greek  meaning of now means "at this very moment" so right now and in a thousand years there is no condemnation in Christ Jesus!!!!
From Here to EternityWords About Waverly
my delicious adventure Photobucket
My Delicious Adventure                  The Life Of Faith
Running From The LawThe Olive Tree
         

May 8:          Taming the Temper Tantrums
May 15:        Weaning from Breastfeeding or From Formula to Cow’s Milk 
May 22:        Dealing with Mommy Guilt
May 29:        When People Share Their Opinions and How to Lovingly Handle it
June 5:         Traveling with your Toddler
June 12:       How to get your toddler to eat their veggies…or their food at all
June 19:       How to make time to blog in the busyness of motherhood
June 26:       Bedtime Battles (nap or bedtime)