Tuesday, October 14, 2014

They say "I'm missing out."

I'm twenty three years old.. I've been married for almost three years. I have one beautiful little girl and I have another one on the way coming December.

My Instagram is entirely full of my little person and husband.

And my bedtime is no later then 9:30 and 10:00 at the latest if I'm trying to catch up on something.

My definition of fun is family trips to the farm or park.

And the greatest pieces of art I carry are scribblings from a almost two year old and thoughtful words from a Beloved.

So what blows my mind really is when someone tells me or mentions that women like me. Who marry young and start a family are "missing out."

Missing out on opportunities, college, having a life, being successful, traveling the world, Having fun, partying, getting a great career and making a substantial amount of money.

But you know what? Maybe I never wanted to go to college?

Maybe I wanted a family to travel the world with?

Maybe my definition of fun is spending time with a family I call my own.

Maybe my definition of partying is having a tea party with a very special girl.

And just maybe my goal in life isn't to make a substantial amount of money but instead to seek first The Kingdom of God and let Him apply everything else in my life.

Did they ever think about that?

I have no need or desire to cross off every country as places I lived or visited before I turn thirty. Even though that would be pretty cool.

I have no desire for a huge house, nice car and everything a great career offers. I don't need that.

Because my number one goal in life is to serve, minister and to bring joy to others.

To lay down my life as a living sacrifice and serve the One who gladly laid down His life for me.

A girl who was helpless.

And for me, what better way to do that then to marry a man and raise little humans.

To be in a place where my life is never about me and my will is never mine but instead it's over there changing diapers and continuing to choose joy in stressful situations.

To live with a man that doesn't fill my every need and isn't meant to however,  I serve him with everything I am anyways.

My life.. It's hard, stressful but Oh so worth it! Because even though my life isn't about me Jesus never fails to favor me and pour blessings over me.

Because when we're all about Jesus and when we do things for His glory and not our own. He really makes it about us.

If anyone were to ask  me why I married so young and quickly became a mom. My answer would certainly be this:

"Being a wife and mom has not only been my life dream, it's also my calling in life. A calling to be needed, to minister, to teach, to serve, to raise and to choose others before myself."

 And in this place of giving there is really nothing more fulfilling here on earth then to be a mom. I never wanted to live life for me first because I have found in this life journey that a life is more beautiful when you give it away.

I'm not missing out, but instead I have gained so much more then living any other life in this world.

 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. 
-Proverbs 31:28


  1. Beautifully stated, Heather. There will always be those critics and it doesn't matter what they say. I was 23 when I got married and didn't have my first child until I was 29. I wanted it that way and it worked out perfectly for us. It seemed as soon as we got married everyone said, "You should have kids. When are you going to have kids?" We had a plan and knew what we wanted and when our kids did come into our lives it was at the right time ... for us.

  2. I really loved this post, Heather! It's sad that our society doesn't deem being a wife and mother a worthy calling. It's sad that so many look at someone who's chosen to embrace family life as someone who's "missing out." I have friends greatly vested in their careers and I wish them the best of luck in that path. I can't help but think, though, that THEY are the ones missing out. I love being a full time wife and mama and am truly blessed to be in those roles.

  3. Beautiful post!! I married young and had kids and it's amazing! When I was a little girl I dreamed of being a Mom one day and here I am- living my dream!

  4. I love love love this! So very true. Sad that people think that life is all about the you.

  5. I love your post. I was not fortunate enough to get married in my twenties. A matter a fact I didn't get married until I was forty and God has blessed us with two amazing children. Years and Years I waited, wanted, and desired to be a mommy and wife. I had good times as a single person. But marriage and family is the best. These are the best years ever.


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